What is success? Success is this ambiguous term that people love to throw around. It could be financial, career based, personal achievement or finding the love of your life. I believe that success is a series of moments rather than a state of being. In order to experience these moments you must consistently achieve goals. Despite this being common knowledge so many people fail because they are not prepared to achieve their goals. When I was at university I become anxious every time I posted a new blog. I was convinced that people would hate my views and I would receive abuse because of it. One thing did come true- I often received abuse because of what I wrote. I had times when I wanted to quit ( I didn’t want people to associate me with my blogs) ultimately I was scared of success. Despite this I kept going, I live to write and I wasn’t going to let anyone stop me. By taking the very public backlash I become a successful blogger on student issues.
This was only possible because I never gave up. I consistently blogged. I would constantly discuss student issues with friends, so that I could find new material. I never gave up, even when I become alienated from the biggest student group on campus. If you want to be successful you have to take risks. Remain focused through the set backs ( and there will be many) and you can achieve anything. In order to be successful you need to overcome your biggest obstacle- yourself
Invest in yourself
If you don’t believe in yourself no one else will. You are no longer a student, you can’t expect praise at every corner. If you choose to spend your weekends developing a business/ writing a novel/painting, you shouldn’t feel unsociable or boring. Going to clubs are fun but what do you really have to celebrate every weekend? Working on your ideas are time consuming and you will have times when you feel like your working constantly. Ask yourself this question. Do I want to be successful or ordinary? I’m sure we didn’t go to university to become like everyone else. Your a lifelong learner, never stop learning or progressing.
Ignore the talkers, love the doers
There are two people in life, people who talk and people who take action. I prefer the latter because they inspire me to become a better person. The road to success is hard and your going to need like minded people around you. Get rid of the people who live in the past ” I could have done this…if only given the opportunity”. The “talker” is unable to see today’s potential but chooses to focus on yesterday’s failures. They also try to convince you that your too ambitious or that you should be content with the way things are. You define your own success. You have to be brave enough to follow your own path.
Focus on number one
One thing all successful people have in common is that they put their needs above others. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make time for your family and friends. You need to know when to put your needs above others. For example, I didn’t attend an after work event a few weeks ago. They wanted as much staff as possible to help out. It’s not that I didn’t want to, I just realised that my own needs were greater then the needs of my company. I was feeling tired, overworked and stressed. I needed to look after myself and I did. You need to show yourself the same care. You can’t have it all no matter what you might think. There are only so many hours in a day and your best hours are usually spent at work. Your free time is precious and you should spend it making yourself happy. For me, personal happiness is achieving my goals. If you take anything from this blog it should be this- take more time for yourself.
These are tips that I have found useful in my graduate journey. I don’t use them all of the time, sometimes life gets in the way. However, I do enjoy my moments of success. They give my life purpose, a sense of direction and help keep me motivated. How do you define success? Leave a comment below.