Passing my driving test is one of my biggest life achievements so far. I still remember hyperventilating while clutching the steering wheel in my first driving lesson in 2013. It took me months to master the gears and years to develop clutch control, spatial awareness and real time hazard perception. I cried, I gave up, I tried again and I almost rolled down a hill because I couldn’t control my clutch. Despite that I refused to give up and managed to pass.
I loved and hated my driving lessons but one thing that kept me going was the need for independence. I didn’t want to rely on friends and family to pick me up. I didn’t want ‘ a man with a car’ as part of my dating check list. I wanted to be able to take myself places. Throughout my years of driving I learnt a lot about myself and life. This blog will share some of this:
It’s OK to be a beginner
I remember my friend’s telling me how easy driving was. I would often hear stories about someone passing their test within ten lessons- I have had more then I can count. Everyone has different skills and abilities. Just because someone find’s something easy doesn’t mean you will. I think as we get older we become more and more frightened of being a beginner. It become worse with age, no one want’s to admit that they don’t know something. If we have this static mindset we will never learn anything new or grow. This makes life very boring.
Trust your instincts, they are usually right
One of my biggest problems with driving was having the ability to make judgments all of the time. When was the right time to pull out onto a major road or join a busy roundabout. In my driving test I was forced to face my fears because my independent drive took me across 3 roundabouts. When we are faced with major life decisions we should trust ourselves to choose the right one. You know when something doesn’t feel right so trust your instincts.
Ask for help
I am a big believer in asking for help. I’m sure I drove my instructor mad because I would constantly ask the same questions. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. This is related to not being afraid of being a beginner. All of the information is out there. Use people, Google or your local library to find the answers that you need. My experience with driving made me a lot more comfortable with asking for help.
It can take years to achieve a goal
I can’t emphasis this one enough. I never thought I would get my licence because I kept making mistakes. As soon as I thought I had mastered the clutch I would begin to make jerky gear changes and stall .Then everything went back to normal and I felt confident driving again. I think this is a good example of how difficult any goal is to achieve. There will be false starts, at times you will feel that you haven’t made any progress but the important thing is to keep going. If you really want something you need to put in the time and effort. Some things you will be working on for the rest of your life, others may only be a few years.
I believe that fear stops us from pursing the things that will make us happier. Don’t let fear stop you from achieving your goals.