New graduates will be stressing about getting a job and moving out of their childhood bedroom. The more established graduate knows better (and has redecorated their childhood bedroom) because they know that ultimate fulfillment can never be achieved in a job. It’s a combination of job, relationships, health and personal development. You will only feel truly fulfilled when your life is balanced. But how exactly do you get there?
Universities are good for many things but creating a life isn’t one of them.
It’s likely that your job won’t be related to your degree and you will end up with a job title that you have never heard of. That’s fine. The most important thing is making sure that you are on the right path. What do I mean by this? You need to think about the sort of life you want. The following questions might help you:
1. Is making a lot of money important to me?
2 Do I live for others?
3 Do I have entrepreneurial spirit?
These questions should help you understand your life a bit better. Some of the answers might not be what you would like (most of us tend to live for other people) but that doesn’t mean you can’t change that. The following points should help you create a custom life path made just for you.
Live according to your life vision and values
A life vision is an inspiring story or sentence about what your life will be. I see this as an internal map that guides me when I have difficult decisions to make. My life vision is simple:
To live a life without limits
To me this means constantly challenging myself in all areas of my life. I want to help people, write, love, travel and have fun. These aims are all attached to my life vision and say a lot about my values. I care about others and i’m a risk taker. I could never work in an organisation that didn’t value people or personal development.
Take a few minutes to think about what your life could be. Make it ambitious, make it exciting but most of all make sure that you are being true to yourself. Your life vision isn’t something that you have to share with anyone. It’s your internal map. If you know where you are going, it will be easier to make difficult life decisions and cope with challenges.
Stop Living For Others
We are all influenced by someone or something. For most 20somethings it’s living a life that looks good on social media. The most important thing is to create a life that feels good on the inside. When I speak to older people their single biggest regret is living for others. It’s good to be selfish. You should consider your wants and needs before others. Negative relationships and unhappy jobs are draining. They stop you from focusing on your goals and ultimately achieving your life vision.
There is no such thing as a perfect life vision, it varies depending on the person. The most important thing is that you live a life that you love. This holistic life view will help you become better at making decisions and over time become happier. The only competition you have is you.
Are you struggling to find the right life path for you? Comment below 🙂